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Why is talking important?

Communicating about sex can be difficult and embarrassing. You should be proud of every effort you make to break the silence around protecting your sexual health. By doing so, you can avoid STIs or unplanned pregnancies and create a safe and supportive environment for sex.
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Questions to discuss with your partner:
The time is now. Start talking before things heat up. Be open and honest. Before you engage in any sexual activity with a partner, it is important to discuss these questions:
  • When were you last tested for STIs?
  • What were the results of your most recent STI test? 
  • What barrier methods (like condoms, oral dams, etc.) do you like to use to prevent STI transmission? 
  • What methods of birth control do you prefer (if you are interested in reducing the risk of an unplanned pregnancy)? 
  • How would you deal with an unplanned pregnancy? 
  • What sexual activities are you comfortable with?
Healthy versus unhealthy relationships

Everyone has the right to healthy sexuality, regardless of your body type, sexual orientation, physical ability, gender identity or expression and age.

In a healthy relationship you feel safe, respected and cared about:

In a unhealthy relationship you feel scared, confused and insecure:

  • You know, like and respect each other.
  • Your partner constantly criticizes you and puts you down.
  • You trust each other.
  • Your partner is jealous and controlling.
  • You are there for one another.
  • You never know where you stand.
  • You feel good when you’re together.
  • You feel pressured to do things you don’t want to do.
  • You can talk about anything.
  • There is a lot of yelling in your relationship.

Consensual sex
Legal consent means saying “yes” because you want to say yes. A person who agrees to sexual activity because they are pressured, afraid, forced, lied to or threatened has not legally consented. This is because they have not voluntarily agreed to sexual activity.
Use a condom
Talk to your partner
Get Tested
Know your risks!


Talk to your partner
Where can I find help?
Top 10 questions

Updated Aug 29, 2018